Reasons To Stay After She Cheats

By Teddy Shabba

They say that if you look long enough you can find a reason for anything, even though you might not like or even be willing to accept those reasons.

For instance, after she cheats on you in your mind you might come up with plenty of reasons to stay.

• She's the hottest women you ever had
• You love her and could imagine spending the rest of your life with her
• She realizes she made a mistake and is willing to change
• Don't know if you can do better than her
• Staying is easier than leaving
• What about the kids
• And on and on

There is an endless amount of reasons that you and especially her can come up with to get you to stay with her after she cheats on you.

However, the one thing that is for certain when a man takes a woman back after she cheats on him is he becomes powerless in the relationship and she knows this.

Whatever reasons you come up with after she cheats that causes you to stay is the same reason you'll use the next time she decides to cheat on you or disrespect you in any way.

Bottom line is much like a paper tiger may look and act like a real tiger in your mind the moment it is tested and turns out to be paper it becomes powerless.

After she cheats and you stay no matter what the reason in her mind you become nothing more than a paper tiger and in case you forgot powerless is not where you want to be in a relationship with a woman.

Teddy Shabba has been helping men overcome the problems and challenges that come once you discover that the woman in your life is/was cheating on you.

As your Dating and Relationship Coach Teddy Shabba is going to show you what you must do in order to regain control and power in your own life.

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Infidelity - 3 Key Points in the Emotional Affair

By Dr. Robert Huizenga

The word "love" pours gasoline on the flames of an extramarital affair.

Have you noticed how frequently and almost reverently the word "love" is thrown around when a couple bumps into their extramarital affair?

The wayward spouse often states, "I fell out of love. I no longer feel for you what I think I should feel. You feel more like a good friend. I love you but am not 'in love' with you."

The offended spouse often hangs on to the marriage with the proclamation that, even though his/her partner has forsaken him/her for someone else, s/he (the offended spouse) still very much "loves" his/her spouse and wants him/her back.

There is one kind of affair (I Fell out of Love...and just love being in love) where the perceived FEELING of being "in love" is paramount. This feeling means everything.

Typically the husband or wife describes "falling out of love" and is anxious about this development.

The "loving" or "romantic" feelings once passionately lived, for unknown reasons vanished or were transformed in the marriage.

S/he (please know that men also struggle with this issue!) wants to "recapture" those feelings. It is thought that those "in love/romantic feelings" comprise the essence of a marital or highly invested relationship and if absent indicate a dysfunctional marriage or a marriage doomed to the boredom heap for the rest of one's life.

The infidelity often is initiated when someone comes along who triggers the latent personal need to feel that "in love" feeling.S/he is insistent and tenacious in attaining and maintaining this ideal (or intensely "loving" relationship.

Before we strategize on how to intervene in the emotional affair, I have three points about this "love" phenomenon I want you to consider:

1. Unfortunately, our culture (movies, songs, romance novels, soap operas, romance comedies) teaches that "being in love" is how it's supposed to be.

"Falling in love" is the norm - the implication being, that if "love" doesn't happen, or if "love" goes away, something is wrong - with you, your spouse or the marriage.

The odds are stacked against any couple attempting to navigate a marriage when bombarded by movies, TV, novels, advertising and grocery check out magazines that point to the power (gosh, don't you envy some of those hip couples?) of finding and losing "love."

To create a lasting, intimate and wonderfully joyful marriage in our Western Culture we first must unlearn a great deal.

2. S/he desperately searching for "that loving feeling" (remember the Righteous Brothers)...typically is conflicted with a signficant dose of guilt.

Unlike some of the other 7 kinds of affairs I describe in "Break Free From the Affair,' "I Fell out of Love...and just love being in love" is marked, for the most part, by the absence of anger.

He/she is often married to a "good" person and the desire to "find that loving feeling" seems selfish (which it is) and immature (which it is).

A little voice within (an s/he is typically aware of this quiet but persistent voice) whispers consistently that s/he is moving down a perilous path.

3. A person needing to feel that "loving feeling" usually has a need for drama and excitement.

The aura around relationships casts a shadow of being a soap opera. The intrigue of 2 meeting secretly to the exclsion of another is the norm.

that feeling of being in "love" is tied closely to the personal need for excitement and plotting. The secret and clandestine nature of extramarital affairs lends itself nicely to seemingly meet these two powerful needs of feeling 'in love' and living an exciting life.

The razzle dazzle and drama of pursuing the "feeling in love" relationship takes center stage rather than a life lived with a certain knowledge of who one is.

If emotional infidelity of this form confronts you, please know you are in for the ride of your life. The power of your negative thoughts and feelings will will demand that you respond with fortitude and courage.

Dr. Robert Huizenga, CSW, LMFT, The Infidelity Coach, is an author, and Marriage and Family Therapist. For the past two decades he has served hundreds of couples, specifically in the area of marital infidelity. He is author of "Break Free From The Affair". Information on Dr. Huizenga's book and other services is available on his web sites.

Is It Possible That Your Spouse Is Cheating on You? Here's A Way You Can Find Out

By Sam Thompson

It seems like every day we hear about some celebrity or public figure being caught having an affair. It's not a big surprise that more and more people are worried about whether or not their own spouse or partner is cheating on them. If you have had your suspicions, you're definitely not alone.

The good news is that there is an easy method that anyone can use to find out if their partner is being unfaithful. This is exactly what we wanted to show you today.

It isn't complicated at all - there are only two steps that you need to follow. Let's go over both of them.

The First Step

This method works because it lets you find out exactly who your spouse has been talking to and communicating with. In this first step you will need to be a little bit "sneaky", but don't worry - it's nothing difficult.

You will need to find about 15 minutes when you can look at your spouse's cell phone without them being around. Obviously choose your time wisely as you don't want to worry about having them walk in on you.

Look over the call history that is on their phone and write down every phone number that you see. Keep in mind that cell phones usually have a separate list of outgoing and incoming calls so make sure to look at each one.

Jot down every phone number that you see listed on their phone on a piece of paper and then put the phone back where you found it when you are done.

Step Number Two

At this point you have a sheet paper that lists all the phone numbers that your spouse has been in contact with. It's now time to uncover who owns each of the numbers that you have written down.

You might be surprised at how much information you can find out about somebody with nothing but a phone number. You can find out someone's full name, address, location details and background information with just their number.

There are companies that have been established to build databases that have information on all phone numbers (this includes unlisted and cell phone numbers). They have to pay money to get a hold of these phone records and build the databases. They then let people use them to find out information about any phone number they need to look into.

This is a search that can be entirely done online. It's called a reverse phone lookup - all you do is punch in the phone number and then the full details on who owns the phone is instantly displayed.

We included a link at the end of this article where you can try a free sample search to see how this works.

To use this service you will have to pay a small fee. It's inexpensive though and you can find companies that only charge a one-time flat fee that gives you access to unlimited searches. You will only be billed once and can then run a search on as many phone numbers as you want.

With your list of phone numbers that you created in step #1, go run a reverse phone search on each one of these numbers. Jot down the information you discover about each number as you go down your list.

When you are done this step you will have information on exactly who your spouse has been talking to on their phone. When you have this information in front of you it's going to be easy to spot anything that looks out of the ordinary. Anything suspicious will jump off the page at you.

One of the reasons I like this method so much is that your partner never knows what you are doing. Not only is it quick and easy, but it's also completely confidential.

There's no question that you deserve to know the truth about your relationship. If you have any reason to believe that your spouse could be cheating on you, the above method gives you an easy and effective way of finding out the truth that you so rightfully deserve.

Click Here for a free sample reverse phone search.

By using this reverse cell phone search you can find out full details on who owns any phone number you are curious about!

Why Marital Affairs Can Be So Damaging

By Lance Winslow

Marriage Vows must not be taken lightly, they are serious to the trust factor of the marital relationship and once that trust is broken it is not easily mended, in fact, sometimes it can never be regained. Even worse than that, a new statistic reported in Christian Science Monitor stated that 1 in four sexually active teenage girls had an STD, meaning as each gets older and remains a sexually active female the more their chances of getting an STD is.

Thus, a gentleman or rather just another guy who chooses to have an affair or a series of affairs is very likely of contracting an STD and bringing it back home to his wife who he has betrayed, therefore adding injury to insult. Generally, when a man cheats on his wife he will try to hide it and go to extreme lengths to do so, often having to lead a double life just to get away with it, as if these choices to cheat were not bad enough the trust factor goes downhill from there.

A woman who suspects her husband is cheating, will often try to prove it, and whether he is or is not, she still suspects and thus, does not trust him. This in itself is a travesty. If we look at the recent governor of New York we see many of these scenarios played out to their end, an culmination that ended the career of a once very popular politician, but do not let that stop you from knowing that, these things happen to regular families also and when they do, it is so damaging to all that are involved.

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5 Good Signs That Show That Your Boyfriend Is Cheating On You

By Steve Ubah

1. You can only go out with him when he sets up the time and the place. Any time you suggest that both of you hand out or do something fun, he tells you, "I am busy" or " I am working late tonight", or some other excuse. This shows that he is doing his best to make sure the two of you never run into each other, plus he is scheduling you around the time he spends with her.

2. His friends always act odd around you; like they know something is going on and can't say anything. They might make jokes about him being a dirty cheating man, jokes that seem to have a hint of truth in them. Corner his friends and ask them what's going on if you get the chance.

3. He never introduces you to his friends as his girlfriend. He always introduces you as a friend. If he is doing this, then he does not want his friends to feel that he is cheating on the girl they know to be his girlfriend. This is especially true of his female friends. He is afraid they would probably tell you if they know you are a nice girl and see you as somebody they could be friends with.

4. When you gets phone calls on his cell he always walks away from you to take the call, and if you ask him who was calling he tells you it was his job or his business partner. Sometimes it may in fact be his job or business partner calling, but if it always happens when you are around him, then you have good reason to suspect that he may be cheating.

5. He slips and calls you the name of the woman he is having an affair with. Of course he will not admit that the name that he just blurted out is his sex kitty. He will probably deny it and tell you not to worry and make up a good excuse. The worst part is if he calls the other woman's name while making love to you. This is one of the most obvious signs that he's seeing someone else. If he is getting your names mixed up, then you will be better off dumping him and finding a nice guy that will love you the way you want to be loved.

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