Sex really is a four letter word. It's either love or lust. Both have the power to invoke extreme pleasure but the difference is one is forbidden. It's the counterfeit. Lust will leave you physically satisfied, but eventually emotionally bankrupt. Love won't. So if you don't want to cheat anymore you have got to counteract the counterfeit.
You empower yourself to stop cheating when you love your spouse more than you lust for your extra. Anything short of that is just pretense and talk is cheap. You can't say that you really love them more and then not act like it. In reality counteracting the counterfeit is not as hard as you think. Just start following one of God's scriptures - drink water out of your own cistern.
It is so beautiful how God describes sex in the bible. He says it's like drinking a glass of cold refreshing water right out of your own well. There is nothing as satisfying as cold water when you are hot. In that same scripture he says stop drinking out of polluted fountains. Fountains are public waterways and can be quite contaminated. In God's eyes when you cheat you are drinking dirty water. He said, I gave you your own private well, why don't you start drinking from it when you are hot and thirsty.
The problem in our society today is that we don't appreciate the well God gave us. We pollute our own well making it as dirty as the public fountain. How do we do it? By lack of maintenance. I have a 600 feet deep well in my front yard and believe me the water out of it is incredible. It comes from a pure underground stream but every now and then we have to go out to the pump and clean it because ants like the heat coming from the electric wires that run the pump and they will build up little mounds under the wiring to stay warm.
If we don't watch out for the ants they will chew through the wires and short circuit the well. Then when you turn the well back on your water will be dirty because all during the time the pump was off sand was building up under the filter because the water was not flowing properly. So it takes a while to clean the sand out once the pump is turned back on.
That's how it is with marriage. You start off with a good well. Then over the years you fail to maintain it and the water starts getting dirty. But all you have to do is clean the pump - work diligently to resolve your issues with your spouse and turn it back on - allow yourselves to heal from all of the sediment that occurred when the well was not flowing, then go back to drinking water from your own well.
When you get that urge to tip out for a glass of dirty water. Turn to your spouse and say I need you now and don't ask any questions. When you are sleep at night and thoughts of the extra flow into your dreams, consider it a nightmare. Jar yourself into being awake and then start fantasizing about your spouse. When the extra offers you a glass of dirty water, do what you normally do when someone offers you something you don't want - say thank you but I'm not interested then head for your own bed.
At first it might be mechanical. You make love to your spouse but you don't feel anything. Just keep drinking. Think of it like your level of thirst after running a marathon. One or two glasses just won't do you. It might take a gallon but you will get fulfilled.
Dear God, help every person reading this article to clean up their well and drink from it. Help them to seek you as to how to best resolve their personal relationships and let their lives never be the same after reading this message from your word again. In Jesus name. Amen.
Linda Leon is a person who loves God, enjoys inspiring people and has done a gazillion things like write books, produce TV programs, and get ordained. Feel free to contact her website at http://www.mvpmedia1.com/lifeinspired/
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